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Thankful to be Used by God

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The last few days have been wonderful, with no problems of any kind. I’ve been exercising as much as I possibly can and catching up on some housework and eBay work that’s been put aside.

I’ve been glowing from the experience we had while on our Date Day Friday. While following the directions from one estate or yard sale to the next, we had trouble finding one address. We had about decided to just skip it, but DH happened to see a sign in the local grocery store window, advertising the estate sale. I had read the directions wrong. So, we tried again and found the house. There weren’t any cars parked around it, and we had to ring the doorbell. An older woman answered the door and invited us in to a house full of stuff in every room. But instead of it being things you would expect to be hers, it all seemed to be the kinds of things a young man would have.

After we looked around a few minutes and oooed and aahed over the beautiful old woodwork on the old home, she began to get talkative. She told us all about her son, who had lived in the house for about a year, before he had a seizure, fell in the front yard late one night while walking his dog, and ended up having five back surgeries that left him a paraplegic.

He had to move in with his parents and sell his home and his possessions, so his Mama was doing the selling. She was obviously upset as she related his story. She related how he was still having difficulty adjusting to this drastic change in his life, which seems pretty reasonable, under the circumstances. Of course, I was using my cane, so when I told her I had been diagnosed with Parkinson’s she talked even more about how emotional he had become. I suggested he visit Wheelie Catholic, as Ruth has such inspirational posts and could find people in similar circumstances for him to talk to. She seemed very grateful.

We didn’t see anything we wanted to buy, but we stayed there a long time, talking and mostly listening, because she really needed to talk. Both of us felt like God had led us straight to her. Our past experiences as caregivers, my current situation as someone newly diagnosed with a debilitating disease, and the similarity of our ages, all made her comfortable opening up. She cried a little and talked a lot, and we promised to pray for her son.

It was a perfect example of God working all things for good, and it has left me with a very thankful heart that we were able to be of help to this sweet lady, struggling to help her son, and yet feeling so helpless.

Am I in Denial?

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We had our usual Date Day yesterday, and had a good time, as usual. It was windy and cold, and I was bundled up. DH was in short sleeves, enjoying the brisk fall weather. We’ve always been at opposite ends of the hot natured, cold natured spectrum, and it looks like the PD is just going to make that worse :).

We found a few good buys, but at one of the estate sales we found one of those deluxe model walkers with the padded seat and all the extra pockets that really looked brand new. The daughter selling everything said her mother had only used it a few months, and that’s exactly what it looked like. She didn’t want much for it, as I’ve been pricing them, and I knew it was a good buy. So, even though I don’t need it now, we bought it.

As we paid for it, she made some remark about how I was going to enjoy using it, and I replied that I couldn’t really say I would enjoy using it, but I knew that I would eventually need it. My DH went on ahead to the car, so he could figure out how to pack it away, and when I caught up with him, he had tears in his eyes. I, on the other hand, was totally unaffected. When I asked him about why he thought it was bothering him so much more than it did me, he answered that maybe he loved me more than I loved myself.

That’s a load to think about for sure! It did get me to thinking that maybe all my “busyness” reading about Parkinson’s and writing this blog is somehow a way to block out my emotions about it. I don’t know. All I do know is that for right now I’m honestly not upset by all this. It’s certainly not because I haven’t read about how horribly debilitating it can become, because I’ve read plenty of that. All I know is that I’ve laid it in God’s hands, and I’m trusting Him to make the best of whatever happens. I do pray daily that my DH will find some peace about this whole situation.

Telling People I Have Parkinson’s

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Today in Sunday School I told my friends that I have Parkinson’s. There were a few gasps, and a few saying at least now I know what’s wrong, but everyone was very supportive and tried to be very positive. We even had a special prayer time for me and for my DH, who has the burden of seeing another care giving task in his future. That part of this disease bothers me more than anything else. We thought we would be through with our care giving when my Daddy finally passes, bless his heart, but now it will just start all over again for him at some point in the future.

We can only hope that new medicines and maybe even a cure will be found by the time I am at the stage of needing full time care. I choose to be optimistic and believe that the meds are going to delay the debilitating stage for me for a long time. I am exercising and eating well balanced meals, as well as getting plenty of sleep and drinking plenty of water, too. I hope to be starting the Tai Chi classes soon, as well. If there’s anything more I can do, I will do it. And above all, I know that God loves me.

I’ve already told my dear sweet hubby that I don’t expect him to keep me at home the way we were able to keep his dad and my mother. He will be a lot older and he’ll be doing it by himself, so there’s probably going to be a point where he just can’t do it all any more. I wanted him to know that I understand, but it just upset him to hear me talking about it, and he made me change the subject. I’m going to be praying a lot for him, that he will be strong through all of this. I love him so much.

From Care Giver to Patient – A Troubling Transition

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Both my DH and I were upset yesterday, getting a glimpse of what I’m going to be like when the Parkinson’s symptoms are too extreme for the medicines to be able to control them all. I felt a hundred years old and had visions of just how dependent on someone else’s help I’m going to be.

I’ve always been the care giver, so it’s hard to depend on someone else to put the time into research and learning all about the disease the way I would. My DH is just not the type to read about illnesses. He can’t stand going to doctors and gets squeemish when blood is drawn.

He’s great at home care, really the best, but he’s not so good yet about keeping medical terms straight and understanding doctor’s jargon and questioning doctors. This all concerns me, because he’s always left all this up to me, and now he’s going to have to take over at some point. He has been going back with me to see the Neurologist, and he has been contributing to the discussion, so he’s really trying. I thank God that it looks like we have enough time for him to gradually increase his skills in this part of care giving.